Few nights ago when Ryan and I were chilling after watching Game of Thrones, we started firing quick questions at each other. Basically we had to answer super fast and not supposed to think too hard. When I got the ball rolling, the questions were pretty simple.
A: Chocolate or Cookies?
A: Christmas or New Year?
Then...when it was my turn to be bombarded, here's what happened
R: Sporty or Lace?
A: Lace 🙊
R: Mama Chow or Daddy Chow?
I contemplated for five good seconds. In the end I chose Mama Chow. If that question was asked five years ago, my answer would be the same, except that it will be answered without much thinking. The difference in time to respond between now and then signified how it became tougher to choose between them.
Now that I responded slower, it has made me realized that my relationship with Daddy Chow have already strengthened over the last five years. Being a traditional man, he is a hardworking and dutiful sole breadwinner for the family.That's about it. As a man of few words, our father-daughter conversation usually lasted no more than 30 minutes since I was young. Therefore, I used to feel distant from him.
Later I found out that his primary love language for the family is the "act of service", where his actions speak for his love and care. In retrospect, I was ignorant to appreciate that. Eventually, as I grew older, paternal love was much evident than before. No matter rain or shine, he would drive me to school every morning during my undergraduate studies. Even for the past 17 months, we interacted longer and struck deeper conversations about life and survival tips at work, on our way to work. I'm fortunate to be labelled as a daddy's girl.
If you feel the same as I did in the past, I will encourage you to identify your parents' primary love language, and make sense of their approach of loving you. You may disagree or doubt their love and attention, that's because they're not speaking your dominant language out of the Five love languages :) Find it out and embrace the present to validate their love by showing your appreciation using their primary love language respectively.
Oh! If you discover our fathers share the same love language, then "act of service" is the bull's eye to celebrate this Father's Day! Stop thinking hard on what gifts to buy or which restaurant to make a reservation. Serve a home cook seafood vermicelli with salted egg will overweight them. It's the one way street and your old man definitely deserves it! Happy Father's Day!
Ingredients (serves 3)
- 9 prawns
- 12 clams
- 3 dried rice vermicelli
- 3 cilantro stems
- 2 salted egg yolk
- 1 spring onion stem
- 1 ginger
- ½ bulb garlic
- 2 tablespoons fish sauce
- 1 tablespoon shaoxing wine
- Canola oil
- White pepper
- Small pot
- Kitchen scissors
- Big plate/casserole dish
- Put 1 tablespoon of salt in a huge bowl. Wash clams thoroughly and soak in saltwater for 15 minutes. Meanwhile, trim off antennae and rostrum of the prawns.
- Chop garlic, ginger and cilantro in small chunks. Side aside in separate bowls. Slice spring onions in short lengths.
- Drain clams and wash them again with water.
- Add 2 tablespoons of canola oil into small pot over medium heat. When oil is heated, pour in ginger, and ½ portion garlic. Fry garlic until light brown, slowly pour in clams at a low level to reduce the impact, the shells may potentially break.
- Stir fry clams till the shells open. Add ½ portion parsley and give it a quick stir for 1 minute. Scoop up in a bowl and side aside.
- Using the same pot, turn down to low heat. Add 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil and remaining portion of garlic. Similarly, fry garlic till lightly brown, gently lay the prawns uniformly. Flip over after 1 minute or until the bottom side turns red. When both sides are red, scoop them up, leave garlic and sauce behind.
- Fill up half the pot with water, add rice vermicelli and boil for 3-5 minutes. Meanwhile, smash salted egg yolks using the back of the fork. Add them into the pot, mix well. Let it boil for 2 minutes, they will turn into light orange ''pebbles''.
- Add clams, prawns and spring onions. Season vermicelli with white pepper, shaoxing wine and fish sauce. Give it a quick fry and serve.